I feel so lonely, what can I do to have a social life and meet people?

Have you ever said to yourself or some one else “I feel so lonely.” Well, if you have and you still do, it is now time to do something about it. There is no reason to go through life feeling alone when there is much to do. That’s right; there are things you can do to help you not feel lonely.

 While there are many that can still feel alone even in the presence of others and even if they have a social life. In this article I’d like to focus on those people who feel deserted, isolated and secluded because they have no friends or an active lifestyle, even those who because of lack of finances may feel they are unable to explore the different things life has to offer.

First and foremost I’d like to emphasize on the fact that we as human beings have choices. We can choose whether we want to stay home in a corner and do nothing, or make a difference and begin to discover a new way of living. If you choose to remain in a cocoon well,  that is where you will remain. But, if you choose to explore different avenues and live life, than you will do just that.

Okay, so you have chosen to live life, great! It is time for you to do a little research.

Do you like to workout? There are plenty of free and inexpensive ways to get involved in physical activities. Almost every city has a gym that is of low cost to join, take for example the gym I attend, it cost me nothing to join and there is only a monthly fee of ten dollars. It is interesting how when you go to the gym regularly there are people you will run into frequently and perhaps become friendly with. Attending a gym is a good way to be healthy, get in shape and meet new people. The gym is a very good outlet for a lonesome person.

Now let’s say, because of the economic times you are unable to spare a monthly fee of ten dollars. Understandable, frugality is a must for many these days. Still, not enough of a reason to desolate, many city parks offer free nature walks and as the weather gets warmer they even offer free yoga classes and workout sessions. To find out more about what activities your city offers for free, just type in your Google search box free activities in your city or town.

We all have interest, things we are curious about, want to learn and do. If you always wanted to learn how to knit, learn basic computer skills or poetry, there are many places such as your library, bookstores, and churches that usually offer free beginners classes on all sorts of subjects. Many people take advantage of these opportunities which all makes way for meeting others and possibly build friendships. Again, let your fingers do the walking, use the search box on your computer and research what is available in your community. Remember what may not come up on your searches could very well come up as you take a walk to these places and take a look at their bulletin boards. That’s right, where there is a will there is a way and it is worth it!

No problem, there are many organizations that often plan recreational and leisure trips for groups of people. Do not feel funny about inquiring and keep a look out for those bulletin boards. Many people who go on these trips are often friendly and fun individuals who enjoy visiting different places and meeting new people.

Another wonderful source to consider is joining a meet up group near you. It is usually a group that shares your interest and similar goals. To find one go to meetup.com. If you find that there are not enough resources in your city or near by towns, then it may be time for you to take charge and do something about it.

Perhaps there are others in your community who like you feel isolated and alone, this would be an opportunity for you to create a group of your own. Maybe a book club or a weekly theatre night group followed by dinner, the possibilities are endless in your pursue of a more social active life.

Like I mentioned earlier, it is your choice. No more solitary days and nights, take action now, change your life and even the lives of others!

Madison O'Sullivan

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