I'm having a hard time being me - How can I change and make a difference in my life and the lives of others?

Having a hard time being you? If the answer is yes, do not beat yourself up, instead understand where it may be coming from and make a choice to turn things around. Many people suffer from low self esteem and negative thinking, they either feel they are not attractive enough, smart enough, worthy of a place in society or feel they have nothing to contribute to others and the environment around them. Sometimes many of these feelings come from an abusive dysfunctional childhood or from emotions they have developed from unhealthy relationships.

Whatever the reason, first things first, stop beating yourself up and stop pointing the finger at others or blaming the circumstances you are in. That is clearly misplaced energy that serves you and those around you no good. Begin living in the now, making clear conscious decisions to make a change for you and your future.

Responsibility can be a grand action and it can begin to open doors for you. Begin taking responsibility for your life as it is in the now. No more blame, no more shame, just a clean cut start to a new way of thinking. Now that you have decided to be responsible, you can begin to choose to make a difference.

1 – Resentments. Let them go, they will eat you up alive, serve no purpose other than become your number one offender. Wasted energy, while you are busy being pissed at others, the circumstances, people and things will go on as usual, the only one suffering will be you, so let it go.

2 – Acceptance. If it is what it is, than that is exactly what it is. Let it be, if things are not going your way no matter how hard you try, than perhaps it may just be meant to be. Release the frustration and begin to find peace within.

3 – Helping others. Once you begin to help others, you will soon learn nothing is more gratifying. Make a difference in people’s lives, give of your time and give an ear. So many people want to be heard, become a listener, advocate for other’s well being, so many of us need someone. Experience the real gift of giving.

4 – Forgive. Heal your heart and the heart of another; sense a relief, a freedom that can only be earned through forgiveness. Let go and let GOD, a humble heart is an open heart for receiving all that is good and pure.

5 – Honesty. What part did you play in it all? Honesty with others is important, but being honest with you, it brings much wisdom. Really look deep inside, what are your motives? Once you know yourself you can begin to improve yourself.